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Monday, 19 August 2019

5 things that I wish somebody had told me about pregnancy

You’ve seen it in the movies, you’ve had friends who have gone through it and you’ve dreamt about this day forever. But, in reality, being a first time mum is like nothing I’ve ever imagined and I don’t think any amount of preparation could have helped me to understand the process. I really enjoyed reading about other people’s pregnancy experiences while I was expecting, so I decided to let you in on a few things that I really wish I’d have known before I got pregnant:


Even though we were lucky enough to conceive after eight months of trying, those eight months were pretty tough on me mentally. I suffered really badly with anxiety, and every month I’d be worrying that something was wrong and whether it was ever going to happen for us. I was so overwhelmed with happiness when I became pregnant, but surprisingly the anxiety didn’t end; I just found more things to worry about, like something going wrong with the baby, or whether I was going to poo during labour. Staying active, taking time to relax, and focusing on meeting our baby was the best way for me to ease my worried mind.


I don’t think you can truly empathise with other mums until you become pregnant yourself - you can never understand the meaning of pregnancy exhaustion until you’ve fallen asleep in your own dinner. I have discovered a newfound love for women through pregnancy - not just mums, but all women. Reading other people’s stories of pregnancy and motherhood and experiencing these first-hand really brings you closer to what it means to be a woman and how amazing and resilient we all truly are.

During pregnancy, you experience change near enough on a daily basis. I imagined myself plodding along for nine months, slowly getting bigger and less mobile, but not much else. In reality, changes are happening inside your body from before you even know you’re pregnant and they appear in all kinds of funny ways. From stretchmarks and cellulite and spots, to gas, wet knickers and constipation - every day is completely unpredictable. Then, just when you feel like you’re getting your head around it, your baby moves inside you. And you freak out.


Thanks to these daily changes, planning pretty much goes out of the window during pregnancy. A night out two weeks from now? Pass me the mocktails! Until you wake up that morning with a blistering migraine and you can’t get out of bed. Sure, I can manage five workouts a week as usual - until one day you’re suddenly so exhausted during the first set that you have to sit down to catch your breath. Pregnancy is full of surprises and as someone who likes to be organised for the week ahead, taking each day as it came was tougher than I’d expected.


Let’s face it - women struggle to feel confident on a daily basis whether they’re pregnant or not. But pregnancy really does make you question the way you feel about yourself. It isn’t only that your physical appearance is rapidly changing every week, something largely out of your control; pregnancy makes you question everything that you are as a person. Will I be a good mum? Should I have worked harder on my career before having a baby? Am I doing everything I can for the baby? Will I be prepared? Daily affirmations helped me maintain a positive outlook. As long as you’re doing the best you can, you have to give yourself some credit for the amazing journey you’ve embarked on.

What did you find surprising about pregnancy? I’d love to hear stories of your weird and wonderful pregnancy experiences below!



  1. Hi Sophie!
    Currently reading this getting through a night feed! I couldn't agree more with how you felt while trying to get pregnant. We were lucky it only took us 6 months but every month was fresh hell waiting then wondering why it wasnt happening. I thik as soon as you make that decision you're ready to be a mum every day that you're not is pretty hard and I wasnt ready for that! It's quite a lonely time as not many people want to talk about it and you constantly bat off questions like 'when are you two going to have kids' The other thing I didnt expect was the new and overwhelming love and respect I had for my own mum - and all the times I regretted being an absolute bitch growing up.

    1. It's literally the hardest thing isn't it?! I don't think it matters whether you've been trying 9 weeks or 9 months it's still tough on anyone. It's the not knowing whether it will even happen for you with your first one that's so hard. Yes!! Totally agree. Even when I was in labour I kept saying to her 'mum how did you do this 7 times?!' Now I get it when she seemed stressed all the time but at the time you just presume that they're being a crank.


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